Alright ladies. What’s the deal with proper gift-giving when it comes to weddings / showers / etc? I’m 22 and this is will be my first good friend to get married. She has registered at a few places and there are plenty of options.

I assumed a gift was necessary for both the bridal shower and then the wedding itself. Another friend’s mom (who has a hand in throwing the shower) says that only one gift is necessary - at the shower, where we’ll see her open them anyway. But coming to the wedding empty handed? Isn’t that weird?

I live in a small town in the south. The wedding is not an extravagant thing at all from my understanding. Standard church deal and small reception. But I grew up in the northeast where everyone wants a ballroom wedding and gifts are over the top, even if it’s just a generous check.